Thursday, January 24, 2013

my father



We lost my father the other day, suddenly and unexpectedly, to Influenza. My sister and I, flew down to Florida to help our mom who was hospitalized with the same illness. All of us, devastated.

A magical man, who brightened any room he entered. Curiosity was his calling card. Always asking questions, and really wanting to hear the answers. In possession of a photographic memory, which served him well in his career as an attorney specializing in intellectual property & patents. It made him a fantastic analyst, a wise source, for everything from politics, the financial markets, religion, science, history and the world at large. 

If you met him, you wouldn't necessarily know these things. He dressed simply, lived modestly, and preferred to spend his time and effort on the things that mattered most, education, family, and saving for that proverbial rainy day. His priorities were crystal clear, his sense of right or wrong, finely honed. His moral compass, perfectly attuned.

His best friend of forty-seven years, my mom, was always number one on his list. When the time came to down-size and think about retirement, what's best for our beautiful mom, his top priority. A house perfectly suited to her needs, should she ever be alone, his goal. 

The grandchildren completely delighted him, and the love affair was mutual. My oldest spent hours discussing math, the second chose him as her sponsor for Confirmation, the third loved writing him poems and drawing him pictures, and my fourth simply adored him. He took a special interest in her health, as of late, accompanying us to doctor's appointments in the city. Always eager to advocate, 
assist, and fix anything and everything.


Dad, I'll miss you. 

'When through one man, a little more love and goodness,
a little more light and truth, comes into the world,
then that man's life has had meaning'
~Father Alfred Delp, SJ

61 comments:

Pink Milk said...

Gosh, I'm so terribly, terribly sorry. Your poor family seems to have been touched with so much sadness and difficulty recently; my heart goes out to to you.

Heather x

Barbara said...

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Jesss said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I'll be thinking of you and your family. I hope your mum has recovered from the flu at least, if not from losing your dad.

xo

Mrs. Cozy Home said...

I can see your children's faces in his ... you and your family are in our prayers. I can tell what a very, very special person he's been in your life.

debbie @ happy little cottage said...

Dear Molly,
I am so sorry for your loss. The world and your sweet family has lost a very special man. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. xoxo

Kim K. said...

Molly - I'm so sorry for yet another loss. Please know that I'm thinking of you ALL. You are definitely in my prayers too.

Brenda said...

So sorry. I lost my dad 17 years ago and still miss him terribly. Praying for you.

Jessie @ Dream and Differ said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Zaanse Zolder said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your mama and you and your family will find the strength to carry on with all those sweet memories of him. I lost my father 10 years ago and my mother 4 years ago, both at very youngh age. It is hard to live without them but they are still watching, I can feel that. I hope you will feel your father in your heart. x Syl

mynestofyarnandbuttons said...

My loving thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your father sounds like a special person and such a wonderful father and mentor you have had. He will always be with you in your heart and soul. I'm so sorry for your loss, xoRobin❤

Mama Bell said...

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing a beautiful tribute to your dad! I will keep your sweet mom in my prayers today.

MANITAS PROLIJAS said...

Lamento mucho la pérdida de tu padre, yo perdí al mio hace unos 4 años y al leer tus palabras he reconocido al mío. Hombre muy sencillo, vivía con lo más básico, muy inteligente....tenía tema de conversación, era uun tipo muy culto......
Ánimo, tu papá te estará cuidando siempre.
Un abrazo

happy momma said...

So sorry to hear about your Dad. We'll keep you and your family in our prayers.

laurie -magpie ethel said...

So sorry. Sending a big old hug your way.

Holly- Cutie Pie Cottage said...

A wonderful tribute, Molly. I'm so sorry for your sudden loss and I'm praying for you and your family. ♥

Derrith said...

Your Dad was obviously a wonderful person and I am so sorry you have lost him so suddenly. Thank you for sharing this with us. Even though I don't know you personally, I visit your blog every time you have a new post, so I feel connected. I lost my Daddy 4 years ago and still think about him daily and smile each time I do. That will come for you too. -Derrith

Maaike said...

Oh no Molly, what super sad news all of a sudden... not a great way to start a new year, to say the least. I am so so sorry for you and your family. Big hugs from both of us to all of you,

xx
Maaike

Mindy said...

Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. Your post honors him so well - he sounds like a very special man.
I lost my dad to cancer when I was in high school, so I often wonder what it would have been like knowing him as an adult. How lucky your kids were old enough to have a relationship with him. Their special memories will be with them forever, as well as yours.
Thinking of you during this very sad time.

chris mckinley said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.

chris

Chel C said...

I was so sorry to hear about your dad. He looked so happy and I bet he was a fantastic father and grandfather and will be sorely missed. Remember the good times, I know it's hard at first but you will start to smile again and recall all the things he said and did and pass this on. You and your family are in my prayers. xx

jesop84 said...

So sorry for your loss.

Annelies said...

I lost my Dad when I was eighteen....I still miiss him so much. You are in my heart and in my prayers. XXXX

Donna said...

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Sandy said...

I know there are no words right now that will help with the shock and sadness. The photo of your Dad brought tears to my eyes....He was a wonderful man and to be taken so suddenly is just unfair. I hope that you and your siblings can rally around your Mom, she is going to need it. Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful Dad.... Sandy

Thoughts for the day said...

That is SO sad I am sorry.

Grammy Goodwill said...

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have lots of memories to give you some comfort in the long days ahead.

" SHABBY JUNK" said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a wonderful man. I am sure he will be missed. I knew my dad was dying for a year, my mother too. They both died of cancer. Cherish each day , We never know.Hugs.

vintage grey said...

Dearest Molly,
I am so sorry for you loss of your precious dad. You and your family are in my prayers!! Hugs and love to you, Heather

carol fun said...

So sorry for your loss... you can tell just looking at his picture that this was a wonderfully kind man. I hope the prayers and positive thoughts will help you and your family. Hugs-

Sherry said...

I was so sorry to hear of the loss of your Father. I lost my Father about 18 months ago and know the empty space it leaves in the heart of every family member. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kathleen Grace said...

I am so sorry.I will keep you and your family in my prayers and pray for your mother for comfort and health. He sounds like a wonderful man and a wonderful husband and father.

Alex said...

I lost my sister in 2008 and my father in 2009. They were wonderful people, the heart of our family, and the loss was huge. I am so sorry that you lost your father, especially unexpectedly. My heart goes out to you and your family. God bless.

GardenofDaisies said...

Oh Molly, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I can tell how much you loved him by the way you write about him. He sounds like he was truly a wonderful person. I lost my Daddy 4 months ago, so I understand the sadness, the tears ready to flow, the empty space in your heart. Saying prayers for your mom and send you a hug.

Crafted by Carly said...

I'm so, so sorry to read your sad news. Sending you hugs.....
Carly
x

Sentimentally Me said...

Sending love your way, and prayers, for you, your family, and especially your mom. . . xox

craftyles said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful father, grandfather and man.

Anita said...

I am so very sorry for your loss! Sounds like you have many happy memories. You're family will be in my prayers.

♥Anita

sylvie said...

i'am very sorry for your Dad,
i lost my dad 22 years ago and I steel miss him, i Was 22 years when I lost him, a dad is very important,
take care of you and your family
Sylvie from France

Debbie M said...

So so sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds like you have alot of fun memories and he will always be in your heart.
Blessings,
Debbie

Yvonne said...

What a lovely tribute to your Dad. So very sorry, Molly. Big heartfelt hugs to you and your family.

xoxo Yvonne from North Carolina

Linda Ruthie said...

My deepest sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your father.

Keri F said...

Molly I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I will pray for you and your family. He sounds like an amazing dad. My dad passed away 21 years ago and I miss him everyday. Big hugs to your family. xxoo

Lisa said...

I am very sorry to read about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Take care
Lisa x

FairieMoon said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am without words, but my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Your words of love and admiration truly brought tears to my eyes.

Deanna said...

I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's sudden passing. It is obvious that he was well loved and a beautiful person.

gena said...

I read this the first day you posted - but didn't comment, because honestly I didn't know what to say. I lost my father (much older than yours - 88) in November and I know that there really isn't much to say.

So, I offer you my thoughts and prayers and positive energy. I hope that your memories and those of your children will help to comfort you and your mom during these sad days.

Blessed Mother, please wrap your mantle of protection around this sweet family and whisper in the ear of your Son, so they may be comforted....

hugs from an old lady in nj,
gena

Stacey@A Sort Of Fairytale said...

Molly, I'm so very sorry for your loss. You have been through so much lately and now this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
XO
Stacey

DianeM said...

Dear Molly - I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. "During this time....There will be hugs. There will be tears. There will be people who don't know what to say. And some who can still make you laugh. There will be pictures and keepsakes. Memories and stories - Some you've never heard. And some you could never hear enough. There will be sorrow. There will be celebration. But, most of all, there will be love. The kind that never ends." You and your family have my deepest sympathy.
Love, DianeM

gina g said...

Aunt Molly, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. You and your whole family are in my prayers. Sending all of my love your way. -gina

Mogis Cottage said...

Iam very sorry that you lost your father and I know how you feel. I lost my father many years ago, when he was 67. He had an heart attack. I was very young at that time and my father was also a wonderful man. The best father I could ever have. Today, many years later I sometimes have the feeling, that he is still there and is protecting me.
My best wishes also to your mother
Love Tina

Sewn With Grace said...

Oh Molly, I'm so very sorry! I'm just reading this today. You have been through so much in the past few months. My heart is heavy for you. I pray for peace during this most difficult time and I pray that your Mom is recovering well.

Stephanie George said...

Hi, I'm a close friend of Tom and Glenda's. Tom told my husband about your recent loss and then today about your blog and contest. I'm so sorry for your loss and all the losses y'all have experienced these last few months; it's mind-boggling. My heart and prayers to out to you and your family. Your blog is beautiful and I am happy that Tom brought it to my attention. I was very happy to go on and vote for you and hope to remember to do so daily as long and the contest lasts.

Blessings to you and your family, Stephanie George

Mrs. B said...

I didn't read this until today and I'm just so *very* sorry....

Your post was just beautiful, he sounded like a wonderful man.

Helen Philipps said...

So sorry for your loss. Your father sounds such a wonderful man, and your blog post is such a moving tribute. Sending thoughts and love your way, dear Molly.
Helen x

Anna Scandinavian Cottage said...

He sounds like a lovely man.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Pati from London said...

Dear Molly,
I am really sorry to read about your loss. You and your family are having a really difficult time at the moment and do feel for you. I send you loads of positivity and strength from London during these difficult times. You dad looks like a very sweet and kind mind. Please do take care, Pati x

Vintage Amethyst said...

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I know how it feels to lose a parent & it is simply devastating.
I do hope you Mum is doing ok & I am sending lots of love to you all at this heartbreaking time.
love
Alison
x

VintageBettys said...

I'm sorry to hear about your dad passing and I'm really sorry to hear your mom has the same thing. I loss my father in 2002, and one of my daughters 2011. Prayers to you and your family. That is sweet of you to do such a thoughtful givaway. God Bless you

Lisa said...

I am so sorry to hear this. Sending love and comfort to you and your family.

Sweet Bee Cottage said...

My heart goes out to your dear family. I am so sorry for your family's loss. Prayers and hugs are being sent from our home to yours.

Angel said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. Deepest sympathies. Sending prayers your way.