Monday, November 26, 2012

flo

We bid a sad good-bye to my wonderful Mother-in-law last week. She died as she lived, with grace and dignity surounded by those she loved.  I can't begin to say enough nice things about hospice. They were wonderful, as was our wonderful aide, Dulce. 

She's sweeter than the fragrances that fill the dell in spring, 
a joy she is above the joys that all the years can bring. 

She's dearer than the dearest friend that I will ever know, 
her prayers ever guide me on no matter where I go.

Her face is furrowed deep with cares, her hair is streaked with gray,
 and rosary beads slip through the hands that first joined mine to pray.

And though the years have dimmed those eyes that were so lustrous fair,
 'tis death alone can take away the love-light shining there.

 As night when kneeling down to pray I thank our Lord above
who was so good to give me my mother's deathless love.

Florence Anne
August 22, 1933 - November 14, 2012


24 comments:

Libbie said...

Such sweetness & love! & oh my that picture of her....makes me love her too!!!

Barbara said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My grandmother was named Florence, and I have always had a soft spot in my heart for that quiet, old-fashioned name. That photo is just lovely.

Zaanse Zolder said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. She will live in your heart forever. x Syl

vintage grey said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Mother-in-law. She seems like she was an amazing woman! Keeping you and your family in my prayers! Blessings, Heather

Kim K. said...

Please know that your family has been on my mind. Sending you extra hugs during this holiday season.

Blessed Serendipity said...

What a loving post for your Mother in law. Sending sympathy and hugs.

Danielle

The Crazy Housewife said...

So sorry for your family's loss...I enjoy your blog very much, and I hope you find peace with your mother in law's passing soon. Take care.

Thuis Thuis said...

I am sorry for your loss.
My mother in law died five years ago at this date.
I can feel the love you have for her in your words.
It's just how i feel about my mother.
Wish you much strength to you en your family.
Love, Annette

Naturally Carol said...

It sounds like it has been a few months of loss and heartbreak for you all with one and then the other. My grandmother was also a 'Florence' and the name seems to belong to some of the most wonderful people...never to be forgotten.

Sentimentally Me said...

Love being sent to you & yours. . . .

Crafted by Carly said...

Oh no. That's so sad. You obviously loved her very much.
Sending love and hugs,
Carly
x

Simply Shelley said...

So very sorry for your loss...sounds like the story of my own mother in law's home going...she too was in the care of hospice. What a beautiful picture of your MIL as a little girl .....blessings

polkadotpeticoat said...

Their together now in heaven.....I'm so sorry for your families loss....what a lovely verse and picture.
Take care, love Heidi

Vicki said...

What is it about November...

It's when I had the first of too many hospital visits at a time in my life for which I have still some after-effects; it's when my brother died; it's when my dad started a descent into the end, Thanksgiving and gone by New Year's. It is particularly hard, not just to lose them and have a bittersweet memory, to then have a nick on seasonal holidays which were perhaps unmarked before, now forevermore changed, when we want the "Hallmark" card moments and that special, golden, perfect time. But it's important, of course to remember the cycle of life and, especially with children at hand to be of the living and rediscover joy through theirs, for it is what those gone would prefer us to do. "Grieve not..."

And so it is a double loss for you and yours, especially your husband. I have to say, and it is a very personal opinion to which I mean no offense because, obviously, we do not know each other nor do I know the circumstances surrounding your loss, there is a poignant solace in knowing your husband's parents are together, having not been apart for long. In my own case, my parents having been inseparable from their teens, living into their 80s together over more-than-sixty years, both having suffered chronic, lingering, disabling health problems in the last 25 years of their lives, Dad leaving Mom behind has been just awful for her. In spite of excellent 24/7 care in her home, although the cost of which has completely eroded her life's savings nearly to pennies, her past five (l-o-n-g) years without him leaves her without her best friend, her confidante, her soulmate...and nothing or no one can fill the void. As a consequence, her quality of life, in addition to mega health problems, has eroded to a pitiful level and I find myself questioning why it could maybe not have gone differently for them...would it have been best/better had she followed him quickly, not separated like this, not feeling alone and forlorn. It isn't for us to know but I sometimes can't help but wonder if the more kind and gentle way would have been to keep them together in death as in life. I feel helpless as the only adult child because I cannot "fix" her life, and I agonize over her physical and emotional suffering.

Your tribute to your mother-in-law is beautiful. How lucky you were to have a bond with her. Not every daughter-in-law has a close relationship with her husband's parents. Deepest sympathies to you, your children, husband and other friends/relatives for the loss of two who were obviously loved and held dear. Wishing you peace as you gather together in grief at year's end. A new year brings hope and a fresh start.

Yvonne said...

Warmest regards to you and your family.

craftyles said...

What a beautiful tribute to your Mother in Law, may she rest in peace.

KJ@letsgoflyakite said...

I am so sorry for your loss, your post is such a loving tribute. I hope your memories of her grace give you comfort during this dark hour.

Sewn With Grace said...

Thinking of you and praying for you and your family during this difficult time.

Parfum pas cher said...

So So Sorry, great loss

GardenofDaisies said...

Dear Molly, I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a wonderful person to know and a true blessings in your life. Saying a prayer for all of your family.

Stacey@A Sort Of Fairytale said...

so sorry for your family's loss...your tribute is lovely as was she in her photo. blessings to you all :)

Helen Philipps said...

What a beautiful loving tribute to your dear mother in law. Sending you and your family my deepest condolences.
Helen x

Lorrie Schultz said...

OOOOO, I am so very sorry. Death at anytime is difficult but at Christmas seem so much more difficult, if this is at all possible.
Your mother-in-law looks like she must have been such a lovely person. She had a sweet smile.
I am, again, very sorry for your loss.
Lorrie
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Elyse said...

so very sorry for your loss. what a lovely and loving tribute.

xo
elyse