Saturday, November 10, 2012

an explanation


Where, my dear, did October go?

My youngest, unfortunately, started the month off with a bad case of pneumonia. You might recall last October, we had a similar start to the month with the same daughter. Well, this time her fever didn't abate, instead it continued, rising higher and higher each day. After a week and a half of ping-ponging back and forth to the pediatricians office, she spiked a fever of 105.7. Our doctor directed us to head to the emergency room. Once we arrived, the E.R. doctor promptly dispatched us by ambulance to the nearest children's hospital.

Traveling by ambulance through terrible rush hour traffic with the city's sky-line rising dramatically overhead with a very sick little one, is not one trip I'd care to repeat anytime soon. She was seriously ill with complications, but we were definitely in the right hands. A week later, we were able to head home. My other daughters were in good shape, thanks to a lot of help from family and friends. Especially my Mom, I can't thank her enough.

And then, my Father-in-law unexpectedly passed away. 

Calls were made to the immediate family, and a fitting farewell was quickly planned. An upsetting time for sure, but seeing the eighteen grandchildren come together from all parts of the country was very special and a powerful testimony to a wonderful grandfather. He was an incredible man successful, kind, patient, and loving. May he rest in well-deserved peace.

At the Funeral Mass, my oldest daughter gave a reading from a letter of Paul to the Phillippians:

Finally, family,
whatever is true,
whatever is honorable,
whatever is just,
whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely,
whatever is gracious,
if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise,
think about these things.
Keep on doing what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me.
 Then the God of peace will be with you.
Phillipians 4: 4-9.

A day or two following the funeral, we made arrangements to begin Hospice care for my Mother-in-law. We've moved her into our home and we're surrounding her with lots of love while providing much needed care and comfort. It's a privledge to be able to help her. 


25 comments:

Anonymous said...

SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR FATHER-IN-LAW. BEST WISHES TO YOUR DARLING FAMILY AND MAY GOD BLESS YOUR M-I-L.

Jessie @ Dream and Differ said...

Delurking to send you prayers and peace during this difficult time. Hope your November and the holiday season are brighter!

Mrs. Cozy Home said...

Oh what a time you've had ... here's to hoping you have a quieter winter. The photo of the grandchildren is really touching, and an incredible tribute.

Kim K. said...

Your absence had me worried. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Such a beautiful photo of the grandchildren. Extra hugs!!

laurie -magpie ethel said...

hang in there...thinking of you and your family. glittery hug.

Terra said...

This is a very rough time for you; your daughter's illness and the ambulance ride, the death of your father-in-law and now caring for your MIL and hospice on the scene.
Take gentle care of yourself, dear blog friend.

My Vintage Mending said...

Molly I was worried it was Miss Rosie again. Our oldest has terrible asthma and it makes for quite a rough ride during the cough and cold season. Everything turns into something more than a runny nose with him. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. It must be such a comfort to know you are raising such wonderful young women. Blessings...Renee

Sandy said...

I am so sorry things have been so rough, and please accept my condolences on your father in law...it sounds like with your mother in law you are not done yet with the sadness ans loss...please know that you are in my thoughts, this is never an easy time, but especially around the holidays. Sandy

emilyandtheyellowhouse said...

I'm sorry about your Father-in-law. It's so special that you're there to take care of your Mother-in-law. I'm glad that Rosie's doing better. May your Thanksgiving be a time of much blessing and comfort!

polkadotpeticoat said...

Oh my goodness you poor thing.....theres nothing worse than when our kids are sick.....and then your poor Mother-n-law....your in my prayers what a gift you are to her!

GardenofDaisies said...

Dear Molly, what a month!
So sorry about your FIL. May he rest in peace. Sending prayers for comfort for your MIL in these remaining months.
What a scare you must have had with little Rosie, again. Sending a prayer for healing her way, too.
Hugs.

Stacey@A Sort Of Fairytale said...

molly, i am so sorry about the passing of your father-in-law and poor rosie's illness. what a time you have had as of late. sending you prayers and hugs! wishing your little one and your mother-in-law well!

Vicki said...

I knew it. I knew something dreadful had happened. There could be no other reason why you hadn't posted although, of course, any blog owner is allowed to do what they want and take breaks. But a loyal audience/readership knows when something is up.

I can believe you have had so many things come up at one time because I'm older and have often felt like I've seen it all...and my experience is that sometimes the bad times come in a big wave, and you wonder if you can take one more thing before breaking.

Your kids are young to be losing their grandparents; all of mine were gone, too, by the time I was age 8. I got robbed on the grandparents-front.

Deepest sympathies for your loss and sending hope and good, healing wishes.

I'm not a mom; even so, I don't have to dig deep to realize what it must be for a mother to see escalating illness in her child. It has to be a helpless feeling; just harrowing.

You've had so much happen right here just before the seasonal holidays; it will only get busier now. I'd say, don't worry about the blog unless it offers you a chance to de-compress. Feel free to share; we'll prop you up!!

Just one last thing, that photo of beautiful young people is a treasure.

Oh, and Molly...can I call you Molly?...don't forget to take care of yourself as you're taking care of everybody else. I've been a family caregiver for five years and I'm depleted; completely worn out. And I've had 24-hr help in the home for my mom in the past two of those years. But it's still a daily responsibility with payroll, insurance, taxes, scheduling, appointments, home maintenance, bills, banking, the mail, pets; it never ends. And I don't even have kids, nor am I currently working outside the home. How people juggle the entire thing, I have no idea. And so many of them ARE. Try to find ways to get out from under it a little bit here and there, by doing something fun with your girls, finding a quiet corner to read (or blog!), get some physical activity somehow; make sure you're getting enough rest and that you are eating well. Your own health can go downhill very quickly when all of your time and energy is spent on the health and wellbeing of others...and they need you...so treat yourself with kid gloves; this I plead!

Holly- Cutie Pie Cottage said...

Oh dear, what hard times...

I was JUST thinking about you last night and planned on leaving a "Are you okay?" comment here on your blog this morning and here you are. Thanks so much for checking in.

May God grant you strength and peace.
((HUG))

Stef said...

Oh, Molly, I'm so sorry you've had such a difficult month. I'm so glad your daughters are all back in good health and I'll be keeping your whole family in my prayers. You are a special woman!

vintage grey said...

So sorry for you loss, and your sweet girl being sick. I am glad she is doing better. Keeping you and your precious family in my prayers. Take care! xo Heather

Helen Philipps said...

So sorry to hear that sweet little Rosie was so poorly, what a worrying time you have all had. Sending you and your family my condolences on the loss of your father in law.
Take care, Molly.
Sending warm wishes.
Helen x

Elyse said...

heavy sigh ...

dear molly, i'm so sorry for your loss and for the difficult time you have been having. i hope that rosie is feeling much better and that you are doing okay too.

sending hugs and strength your way

xo
elyse

Pati from London said...

Dear Mollie,
I am so sorry to hear about the difficulties you've gone through recently. My sincere condolences on your family loss.
Do take care of yourself.
Warm wishes and regards from London, Pati x

Sewn With Grace said...

Oh Molly, I am so sorry! What a month it has been for all of you. I'm praying for you and your family. My goodness, my heart aches for you!

Yvonne said...

Molly, every time I clicked on your blog and saw the same bright colored leaves, I said a quiet prayer for you and your family. Somehow, I felt it might concern your sweet little one. So glad to hear that she is better. Big cyber hugs to you and your entire family as you travel through this valley in your lives.
xo Yvonne in NC

Libbie said...

Oh Molly you have been through so much! I can't imagine seeing your lil' one so sick...breaks a Mmam's heart. And then to lose someone so dear...

That is one of my favorite verses that I carry in my heart & I love that you had it at his funeral. Seeing all those grandkids together made me smile huge...lot sof love in that family of yours.

And now you are cartaking again. You are such a blessing to your family! I love how God has blessed you richly with so many loved ones!

I will stop now & pray for ou & your family, Blessings on all of you!

koralee said...

Sending you my prayers and thoughts..happy to hear your daughter is feeling better ..what a fright! Take care my friend. xoxo

Lorrie Schultz said...

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Doojies said...

What a beautiful blessing that all of the grandkids were there and contributed. And what a beautiful legacy Frank and Flo have left. It was a great honor to know and love them. Stephanie